Yes, this is a problem for me. As a mother and parent and a female I've been programed to love and give to others more than myself. While there are those in our lives who always make themselves or their possessions or their bank account or their money a first priority. I need to learn to be a lot less giving and care a lot less about these people. It's a hard concept but except for my immediate family I need to care less about those who will never care about anything or anybody but themselves first and foremost, it would mean a lot less disappointment and pain. I am constantly reminded of this lesson but I think it is finally sinking in. Expect nothing and there is no disappointment. Give less and there is more peace.
I personally dislike valentines day. It is probably because I had a dad who put my mom first and again set the bar high. He always bought mom flowers and candy. And yes she did not like chocolate and the heart shaped box of chocolates were mostly eaten by dad and us kids! But it was the thought. It was always a tradition for dad to bring home a big box of chocolates with a map on the inside lid of what kind of candy each piece was in the box. Except for one year!!! Often times Valentines day would come right before the start of lent. And everyone gave up chocolate and candy for lent-house rules. So we were often challenged to get the box of chocolates eaten before Ash Wednesday in a short time. The boxes dad always brought home came from the dime store, Tegan's Variety Store, is what it was called in Independence, Iowa. At the start of the Valentine season, some time in January, NOT December as is custom now, the store window would be decorated with beautifully decorated boxes of chocolates and stuffed animals and other Valentine fare. Dad knew, as did anyone who know her, that mom's favorite color was yellow. So usually each year he would present mom with a heart shaped box of chocolate with artificial yellow flowers and ribbon adoring the lid. He was predictable but he knew what mom loved. (He usually brought yellow flowers-roses or sometimes red roses, which were his favorite for my mom as well.) But one year in our excitement of mom opening her box of chocolates so we all could dig in, things were not what we expected. When the box was opened it was void of chocolate-EMPTY!!! It was the display box that could withstand the warmth of a store display window without the chocolates melting. Well it was a surprise to all. My dad was a little miffed but then he saw the humor of the situation and the following day my dad returned to the store to exchange the empty box for one filled with delicious chocolates! It was a running joke through the years and I remember the moment with fond memories. I'm betting all those boxes of valentine candy and the bags of candy my dad would always bring home from town my mom probably sometimes wished that it would be something more for her or something she enjoyed. But she never let on. She was thrilled that dad was always thinking of her and giving. That's what not just today, but every day should be. Giving because you care and love people, not just because they got you something or did something or you feel like you have to. It's not the material things here but kindness, a listening ear, sharing and doing things for those you care for and love. And it should be because you want to. You can say "I love you" all you want but showing it means more than words can say. Actions speak louder than words, even if it is an empty box of candy.
Positive thought of the day: Show the people you love that you do-you can say it all you want but if the actions and thoughtfulness is not there it means nothing. Some people need to learn to love themselves first-others already have this down to a fine art...
Saturday, February 14, 2015
Thursday, February 5, 2015
I was a witness
My mom and dad had a wonderful love story. It was one not only about love but of friendship, caring, respect and teamwork. It wasn't perfect but comes about as close as I've seen to perfect.
My parents came from two different worlds-my dad's home life was unstable-which is a nice way to put it. They moved a lot, and I'm not sure why. My grandmother was volatile and very unstable from what I've been told-I'm sure in this day and age she would have some sort of diagnosis. I've been told my grandmother would go from nice to nasty mean in the blink of an eye. My grandfather I've gathered was a very patient and quiet man. My dad was the youngest of six living children and there was a big age gap between he and his oldest sister, my aunt Kate. Dad had a rough childhood, of which I don't know a lot about and the few stories that I've been told make me sad for him.
Mom was the youngest as well. Her home life was of stability and comfort. My grandparents were near 30 when they met and wed. Mom and her two siblings were close and all lived within 3 miles of each other as adults. They celebrated birthday's and anniversaries every year as long as they were all alive-cousins grew up with cousins, aunts and uncles....my mom was the last one to survive. And I remember her telling me "there's no one left, it's not fun being left behind". She was very close with her family.
I was an eyewitness to my parents and their companionship for 36 years of their 50+ marriage. It set the bar and standard high for me. Dad would never go to town without returning with something for my mom. It was usually a bag of candy, even though she was not a big chocolate fan, it was the thought that counted for them. And there were times he would bring home flowers. His ability to give gifts always made my mom smile, dad always knew what to give. He was always thinking of her.
From this couple I was taught what you do for those you love. You work together, you share the responsibility and work load, you share the good and bad times. They talked and discussed things and were open with one another. They made decisions together and would talk about decisions before making them. My dad would start the car for mom during the winter, my mom would polish dad's shoes before church. Dad took pride in things, taking good care of them-my mom made sure to continue this practice. They worked hard and played hard but the key is they did this together.
But it was the little things from working together on the farm, the crops and livestock, to the family garden and taking care of the home-life was together for them.
These two people taught me that it was the daily things, from dad holding the door open for my mom, to walking together-not one ahead of the other but side-by-side, showing affection (which is something I grew up seeing) to just talking to one another. They shared responsibilities on the farm, in the house, raising us kids and their life in general. It was not one person taking care of everything - it was 110% given by both. I only saw my parents argue a couple of times and they both were pretty heated but it was over silly things...once when planting potatoes and another time when wallpapering-YES you read that right, those are the two biggest things I ever heard them argue about! They talked, they shared and they were each others best friend.
I'm not saying my parents were not without their problems. Dad suffered from a deep depression from a "chemical imbalance". I think his childhood and some inheritance from his mother were big factors in that depression. But this was the tough times. Health issues always bring trying times. And end of life is not like it shows in the movies, it is tough, not pretty and heart breaking. But I know my dad loved my mom to his last breath and I know my mom loved my dad to her dying day. They were best friends and the respect and love was there to the end.
But what these two people taught me is the good old fashion ways of being a team, loving someone unconditionally and working together for a the good of all and showing you care and respect at all times.
Today's marriages are seldom, if ever like this. Times have changed I know. But the simple things and ways like listening to one another, being there through good and bad, showing you care in everyday ways and to being there, no matter what for one another are what it takes to make a relationship work, any relationship. Could my parents have written a book about marriage-they could give advice but I truly believe everyone is unique and each relationship is different and I'm not just talking about marriage here. But showing you care is the biggest key and this can be done is so many ways. We all need to step back and take a look at the relationships that are important to us and see if we are treating those who mean the most to us how we'd like to be treated. It seems to be the norm that we treat strangers better than those we love.
Positive thought of the day: Live each day as if it were your last day on earth. Make the most out of it and tell the people you love that you do love them.
My parents came from two different worlds-my dad's home life was unstable-which is a nice way to put it. They moved a lot, and I'm not sure why. My grandmother was volatile and very unstable from what I've been told-I'm sure in this day and age she would have some sort of diagnosis. I've been told my grandmother would go from nice to nasty mean in the blink of an eye. My grandfather I've gathered was a very patient and quiet man. My dad was the youngest of six living children and there was a big age gap between he and his oldest sister, my aunt Kate. Dad had a rough childhood, of which I don't know a lot about and the few stories that I've been told make me sad for him.
Mom was the youngest as well. Her home life was of stability and comfort. My grandparents were near 30 when they met and wed. Mom and her two siblings were close and all lived within 3 miles of each other as adults. They celebrated birthday's and anniversaries every year as long as they were all alive-cousins grew up with cousins, aunts and uncles....my mom was the last one to survive. And I remember her telling me "there's no one left, it's not fun being left behind". She was very close with her family.
I was an eyewitness to my parents and their companionship for 36 years of their 50+ marriage. It set the bar and standard high for me. Dad would never go to town without returning with something for my mom. It was usually a bag of candy, even though she was not a big chocolate fan, it was the thought that counted for them. And there were times he would bring home flowers. His ability to give gifts always made my mom smile, dad always knew what to give. He was always thinking of her.
From this couple I was taught what you do for those you love. You work together, you share the responsibility and work load, you share the good and bad times. They talked and discussed things and were open with one another. They made decisions together and would talk about decisions before making them. My dad would start the car for mom during the winter, my mom would polish dad's shoes before church. Dad took pride in things, taking good care of them-my mom made sure to continue this practice. They worked hard and played hard but the key is they did this together.
But it was the little things from working together on the farm, the crops and livestock, to the family garden and taking care of the home-life was together for them.
These two people taught me that it was the daily things, from dad holding the door open for my mom, to walking together-not one ahead of the other but side-by-side, showing affection (which is something I grew up seeing) to just talking to one another. They shared responsibilities on the farm, in the house, raising us kids and their life in general. It was not one person taking care of everything - it was 110% given by both. I only saw my parents argue a couple of times and they both were pretty heated but it was over silly things...once when planting potatoes and another time when wallpapering-YES you read that right, those are the two biggest things I ever heard them argue about! They talked, they shared and they were each others best friend.
I'm not saying my parents were not without their problems. Dad suffered from a deep depression from a "chemical imbalance". I think his childhood and some inheritance from his mother were big factors in that depression. But this was the tough times. Health issues always bring trying times. And end of life is not like it shows in the movies, it is tough, not pretty and heart breaking. But I know my dad loved my mom to his last breath and I know my mom loved my dad to her dying day. They were best friends and the respect and love was there to the end.
But what these two people taught me is the good old fashion ways of being a team, loving someone unconditionally and working together for a the good of all and showing you care and respect at all times.
Today's marriages are seldom, if ever like this. Times have changed I know. But the simple things and ways like listening to one another, being there through good and bad, showing you care in everyday ways and to being there, no matter what for one another are what it takes to make a relationship work, any relationship. Could my parents have written a book about marriage-they could give advice but I truly believe everyone is unique and each relationship is different and I'm not just talking about marriage here. But showing you care is the biggest key and this can be done is so many ways. We all need to step back and take a look at the relationships that are important to us and see if we are treating those who mean the most to us how we'd like to be treated. It seems to be the norm that we treat strangers better than those we love.
Positive thought of the day: Live each day as if it were your last day on earth. Make the most out of it and tell the people you love that you do love them.
Thursday, January 29, 2015
Best laid plans
As the saying goes the best laid plans of mice and men often go awry. This is often true when it comes to dealing and working with kids!
I've brought in fifth graders three times over the past week or so to teach them how to use the online card catalog for the district library. I swear between kids being wacky and technology it is an adventure every single time. Today it was not enough computers. Then someone had unplugged a wall of computers without turning them off so one of those computers decided to have issues while another computer on another wall just didn't want to wake up (like me more school mornings).
Then there are those kids who either think they know it all or are just clueless enough so they just start clicking away! Yes following directions is a challenge for everyone!
Learning how to use the website is pretty easy. But knowing what things mean when you find a book is another challenge. Like the student who could not find a book he had looked up. Then I could not find the book either. Then I asked him if he had check to see if the book was already checked out....yep! It wasn't even here! I hate when that happens. Or the books that kids pull off the shelf, then they just put them in where ever they want if they decide they don't want the book...this makes for a frustrating search when trying to find a specific title. Kids are an interesting breed when given the right tools to go amuck with!
My main objective was to teach them how to look up books and be a bit more independent instead of coming in and asking me where the mystery books are....the library is NOT set up that way. If I had a dime for every time I've said that I'd be rich!
Regardless it is fun to see these kids go on a search for their books and how happy they are when they find the book they are looking for! That makes it all worthwhile-even if technology works against us!
And it is kind of like life, we are always on a quest and search for something. The search is some times easy and other times difficult but once we find what we are looking for, it makes it all worthwhile!
Positive thought of the day: As long as we are looking we are alive. It's when we stop looking that we should worry.
I've brought in fifth graders three times over the past week or so to teach them how to use the online card catalog for the district library. I swear between kids being wacky and technology it is an adventure every single time. Today it was not enough computers. Then someone had unplugged a wall of computers without turning them off so one of those computers decided to have issues while another computer on another wall just didn't want to wake up (like me more school mornings).
Then there are those kids who either think they know it all or are just clueless enough so they just start clicking away! Yes following directions is a challenge for everyone!
Learning how to use the website is pretty easy. But knowing what things mean when you find a book is another challenge. Like the student who could not find a book he had looked up. Then I could not find the book either. Then I asked him if he had check to see if the book was already checked out....yep! It wasn't even here! I hate when that happens. Or the books that kids pull off the shelf, then they just put them in where ever they want if they decide they don't want the book...this makes for a frustrating search when trying to find a specific title. Kids are an interesting breed when given the right tools to go amuck with!
My main objective was to teach them how to look up books and be a bit more independent instead of coming in and asking me where the mystery books are....the library is NOT set up that way. If I had a dime for every time I've said that I'd be rich!
Regardless it is fun to see these kids go on a search for their books and how happy they are when they find the book they are looking for! That makes it all worthwhile-even if technology works against us!
And it is kind of like life, we are always on a quest and search for something. The search is some times easy and other times difficult but once we find what we are looking for, it makes it all worthwhile!
Positive thought of the day: As long as we are looking we are alive. It's when we stop looking that we should worry.
Monday, January 26, 2015
Stop and listen
An impromptu quick ice cream run turned into more than I ever thought it would. After getting the ice cream I wanted to make two quick stops before returning home-nothing important, just quick errands. It was a short but sweet trip and a nice break from the craziness of life.
So after walking into a store and chatting with a sales clerk, who I only know by her name "Cheryl" on her name tag, and the fact that her cousins are two people I know and have worked with I quickly found what I was looking for and was ready to check out and leave. When Cheryl asked me "Can I tell you something?" I said yes without thinking, and I was a bit surprised and wondering what she was going to share. It wasn't like we were friends other than talking a couple of times over the past six months when I would stop in.
But Cheryl felt the need to share something personal and heartbreaking...her son, 26-years old was diagnosed with cancer on Monday and had started radiation on Saturday. She wasn't going to be able to see him until Tuesday because she had to work. She shared what her son had been going through health-wise and career-wise for the past month. As well as how hard he had worked to start his dream business. He had worked and been saving money since high school, attended college and gotten his masters degree as well. He was just starting on his dream business when his health put all that in the back ground. This news stopped me in my tracks and I put myself in Cheryl's shoes as a mother as well a mother of a 26-year old son too. Cheryl shared some details of what her son's health had been like for the past month and the hassles of health insurance he had been through just before his diagnosis. But in her eyes and voice I heard the heartbreak of this news and how proud she was of her son and how hard he had worked to get this far. She was scared, fearful and trying to come to terms with the news as well as be supportive to her son.
I knew nothing I could say would make things better, plus I didn't know what to say. So I just listened. Why Cheryl felt the need to share her story with me, I don't know. Maybe she just needed to get it out, say it out loud and share it with someone who would listen-which is what I did, nothing more. She shared a lot of information in a short time and I do believe there was a reason, other than ice cream, that I made that trip and stopped by that store at that time.
I'd like to think we've all been in those situations where we just dump what is going on in our life, what's really bugging us, on complete strangers, for whatever reason. Is it because just saying it out loud makes it real? Or maybe telling someone you don't know helps emotionally as well as physically?
But what Cheryl's sharing did for me was make me slow down, if not stop and literally thank God for what I have and take for granted every day. I'm not saying I don't appreciate what I have and the three kids I've been blessed with, but my life and week had been a pretty crazy and busy and things were a little tough with a migraine headache on top of everything else. So to get things straight...a fun ice cream trip which was suppose to be good break became a moment of being there for someone I didn't know. And a reminder for me that life is fragile, short and often over before we are ready to let go.
I'm sharing a poem I read many years ago when I lost my first child and bits and pieces of this run through my mind at various times, but it is something to keep in mind, especially the first line...
Positive thought of the day: Life is short. Live it!
So after walking into a store and chatting with a sales clerk, who I only know by her name "Cheryl" on her name tag, and the fact that her cousins are two people I know and have worked with I quickly found what I was looking for and was ready to check out and leave. When Cheryl asked me "Can I tell you something?" I said yes without thinking, and I was a bit surprised and wondering what she was going to share. It wasn't like we were friends other than talking a couple of times over the past six months when I would stop in.
But Cheryl felt the need to share something personal and heartbreaking...her son, 26-years old was diagnosed with cancer on Monday and had started radiation on Saturday. She wasn't going to be able to see him until Tuesday because she had to work. She shared what her son had been going through health-wise and career-wise for the past month. As well as how hard he had worked to start his dream business. He had worked and been saving money since high school, attended college and gotten his masters degree as well. He was just starting on his dream business when his health put all that in the back ground. This news stopped me in my tracks and I put myself in Cheryl's shoes as a mother as well a mother of a 26-year old son too. Cheryl shared some details of what her son's health had been like for the past month and the hassles of health insurance he had been through just before his diagnosis. But in her eyes and voice I heard the heartbreak of this news and how proud she was of her son and how hard he had worked to get this far. She was scared, fearful and trying to come to terms with the news as well as be supportive to her son.
I knew nothing I could say would make things better, plus I didn't know what to say. So I just listened. Why Cheryl felt the need to share her story with me, I don't know. Maybe she just needed to get it out, say it out loud and share it with someone who would listen-which is what I did, nothing more. She shared a lot of information in a short time and I do believe there was a reason, other than ice cream, that I made that trip and stopped by that store at that time.
I'd like to think we've all been in those situations where we just dump what is going on in our life, what's really bugging us, on complete strangers, for whatever reason. Is it because just saying it out loud makes it real? Or maybe telling someone you don't know helps emotionally as well as physically?
But what Cheryl's sharing did for me was make me slow down, if not stop and literally thank God for what I have and take for granted every day. I'm not saying I don't appreciate what I have and the three kids I've been blessed with, but my life and week had been a pretty crazy and busy and things were a little tough with a migraine headache on top of everything else. So to get things straight...a fun ice cream trip which was suppose to be good break became a moment of being there for someone I didn't know. And a reminder for me that life is fragile, short and often over before we are ready to let go.
I'm sharing a poem I read many years ago when I lost my first child and bits and pieces of this run through my mind at various times, but it is something to keep in mind, especially the first line...
Positive thought of the day: Life is short. Live it!
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
Looking up
Life as a person shorter in stature can be a challenge at times. One of those challenges is dealing with people who are taller and the need to always look up to people. I mean this as in height not respect, well sometimes but not always. As the youngest and shortest in my family I was always looking up to people both out of respect and because of height. But there are perks to being shorter, you can fly under the radar-so to speak. You can fit through small and tight spaces (like under or behind bleachers to work on sound systems-this is just an example here!). And you can make yourself taller if you want with shoes or boots with heels! Just as there are perks to being tall there are also perks to being short!
But for this blog "Looking Up" has nothing to do with height and being short. This one has to deal with being positive. To be honest the world, right now seems to be going to hell in a hand basket. It seems like there are crimes, and not just petty, small ones, but major crimes happening all over the place. Even in our little safe part of the world, it's not always so safe. And the general attitude of people seems to be pretty poor and negative as well.
"Looking up" can also mean getting past the negative and doom and gloom of life and moving on and up. I've eliminated a lot of negative people, to the best of my ability, in my life over the past year. It was just something I had to do for me. We all have those people who are attention hogs. They want it to be all about them. I think of that song called "Let's talk about me" by Trace Adkins and I think it describes some people I've trimmed from my life to a "t". They want all your time and energy and they will suck the life out of you, if you let them. It's all about them. The glass is half empty rather than half full or the day is mostly cloudy not mostly sunny. And there are those negative people you just have to deal with because they have to be part of your life just because. This can be because of work or because they are part of your family. I keep these people at bay and have minimal contact with them-it's better for my health and theirs if I do!
So when the negative Nancy's of the world start invading my life I usually just deal and get frustrated and wonder what the hell and keep plugging away. And some of these people will just keep running that parade past you over and over again-boo hoo, life is so rough, I'm so tired or sick or nothing is going right. They will suck your your fun circuts dry if you let them. We all have our moments but some people have those moments 24/7. Some people are negative Nancy-ALL. THE. TIME. Get over yourself.
So to those Negative Nancy's in my life-I say goodbye. I'm done having a front row seat to your crap. Take your sucky attitude some where else. I will eliminate you out of my life, it will be hard for me to do but no one is worth this much negativity, take it some where else. You're not going to get very far in life with an attitude that sucks. Wake up and appreciate the fact that you can wake up and you have a damn good life over all. All you have to do is look around you and you'll find someone, more than likely right next to you or not too far, that has it a heck of a lot worse than you do. Appreciate what you have. And here's another clue-take a good long look at your friends. If you have a piss poor attitude then more than likely you do too. "Show me your friends and I'll show you your future"-so very, very true.
So look up, life is too short to be down all the time or spend all your time on an electronic device, missing out. Before you know it this time will be gone and so will some people-value them and the POSITIVE memories you can make.
Look Up!!
Positive thought of the day: Wake up each day with the thought that today will be a good day.
But for this blog "Looking Up" has nothing to do with height and being short. This one has to deal with being positive. To be honest the world, right now seems to be going to hell in a hand basket. It seems like there are crimes, and not just petty, small ones, but major crimes happening all over the place. Even in our little safe part of the world, it's not always so safe. And the general attitude of people seems to be pretty poor and negative as well.
"Looking up" can also mean getting past the negative and doom and gloom of life and moving on and up. I've eliminated a lot of negative people, to the best of my ability, in my life over the past year. It was just something I had to do for me. We all have those people who are attention hogs. They want it to be all about them. I think of that song called "Let's talk about me" by Trace Adkins and I think it describes some people I've trimmed from my life to a "t". They want all your time and energy and they will suck the life out of you, if you let them. It's all about them. The glass is half empty rather than half full or the day is mostly cloudy not mostly sunny. And there are those negative people you just have to deal with because they have to be part of your life just because. This can be because of work or because they are part of your family. I keep these people at bay and have minimal contact with them-it's better for my health and theirs if I do!
So when the negative Nancy's of the world start invading my life I usually just deal and get frustrated and wonder what the hell and keep plugging away. And some of these people will just keep running that parade past you over and over again-boo hoo, life is so rough, I'm so tired or sick or nothing is going right. They will suck your your fun circuts dry if you let them. We all have our moments but some people have those moments 24/7. Some people are negative Nancy-ALL. THE. TIME. Get over yourself.
So to those Negative Nancy's in my life-I say goodbye. I'm done having a front row seat to your crap. Take your sucky attitude some where else. I will eliminate you out of my life, it will be hard for me to do but no one is worth this much negativity, take it some where else. You're not going to get very far in life with an attitude that sucks. Wake up and appreciate the fact that you can wake up and you have a damn good life over all. All you have to do is look around you and you'll find someone, more than likely right next to you or not too far, that has it a heck of a lot worse than you do. Appreciate what you have. And here's another clue-take a good long look at your friends. If you have a piss poor attitude then more than likely you do too. "Show me your friends and I'll show you your future"-so very, very true.
So look up, life is too short to be down all the time or spend all your time on an electronic device, missing out. Before you know it this time will be gone and so will some people-value them and the POSITIVE memories you can make.
Look Up!!
Positive thought of the day: Wake up each day with the thought that today will be a good day.
Thursday, January 15, 2015
What's up with that?
Okay, this might be a bit of a rant, or it may be more questioning stupidity...anyway, read if you want, if you don't I don't care.
-what is up with people who think they don't have to follow the rules or rules do not apply to them? Wake up, your mom may have told you that you were special, but your not THAT special-no one is.
-why is it I can spend hours at work dealing with routine things but as soon as I have to leave the room someone comes in needing or wanting something. For pete's sake, what is the deal? I need to move and pee once in a while!
-why doesn't everyone get Martin Luther King, Jr. day off? A day off would be nice and what does it matter in May? It should be everyone or no one! Fair is fair!
-Why do teenagers think that adults can't read them like a book and don't know what is going on. If your going to have excuses and lie it doesn't take much to find out the truth. And usually you don't even have to ask, the info just comes without asking. Busted!
-What makes guys think it looks good or is cool to walk around with their pant exposing their underwear...If I want to see a guys underwear make it a hot guy, not some teenage punk who thinks it's cool...google what wearing your pants like that, maybe you'll pull them up.
-the shirt or pants or jeans I want to wear I swear hides because they know I'm looking for them! I like to try to be organized but there are those days where what should be an easy get dressed and head to work kind of thing just is not working. Either I can't find a piece of clothing or nothing I put on looks or feel right. This is probably just a girl problem!
-why don't I get all my outfits laid out over the weekend so I'm not having to do it every night before bed or in the morning? What is the deal?!
-school is cancelled because of snow and cold days so why can't we cancel because of a really nice day in December or January when it is suppose to be bitter and cold. Lets celebrate the good, not just the bad when it comes to weather!
-why does the wind always have to be out of the direction that I'm driving towards?! So much for good gas mileage!
- apparently I'm above average when it comes to the number of steps I take every day! I need to up the average of 10,000 to 12,000 or so because I go over that 10,000 almost everyday according to my fitbit. But that makes me feel good.
-why is it when your hungry and you don't know what for, you can't find anything. Then later when you aren't looking for something to eat you find all kinds of good things that you just didn't see before!
-why do warm chocolate chip cookies and cold milk taste so good together? I'm hungry just thinking about it!
-your friends and the people you surround yourself with really do make a difference in your attitude and outlook. If they are negative then you will be too. If they are positive and fun then you reflect them as well! This is fun to see in kids and who their friends are-we all know those people who just are not good for the people they are hanging out with.
-a negative attitude will give you a very negative life.
-cleaning out and getting rid of "crap" is always a good feeling. It gives me a fresh new look!
-some people leave such an impact on you life-regardless if you know them your entire life or for a short time, they make such a difference!
Positive thought of the day: I believe for as busy as today is and how crazy busy life is that it is a lot better than being bored and lonely.
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-what is up with people who think they don't have to follow the rules or rules do not apply to them? Wake up, your mom may have told you that you were special, but your not THAT special-no one is.
-why is it I can spend hours at work dealing with routine things but as soon as I have to leave the room someone comes in needing or wanting something. For pete's sake, what is the deal? I need to move and pee once in a while!
-why doesn't everyone get Martin Luther King, Jr. day off? A day off would be nice and what does it matter in May? It should be everyone or no one! Fair is fair!
-Why do teenagers think that adults can't read them like a book and don't know what is going on. If your going to have excuses and lie it doesn't take much to find out the truth. And usually you don't even have to ask, the info just comes without asking. Busted!
-What makes guys think it looks good or is cool to walk around with their pant exposing their underwear...If I want to see a guys underwear make it a hot guy, not some teenage punk who thinks it's cool...google what wearing your pants like that, maybe you'll pull them up.
-the shirt or pants or jeans I want to wear I swear hides because they know I'm looking for them! I like to try to be organized but there are those days where what should be an easy get dressed and head to work kind of thing just is not working. Either I can't find a piece of clothing or nothing I put on looks or feel right. This is probably just a girl problem!
-why don't I get all my outfits laid out over the weekend so I'm not having to do it every night before bed or in the morning? What is the deal?!
-school is cancelled because of snow and cold days so why can't we cancel because of a really nice day in December or January when it is suppose to be bitter and cold. Lets celebrate the good, not just the bad when it comes to weather!
-why does the wind always have to be out of the direction that I'm driving towards?! So much for good gas mileage!
- apparently I'm above average when it comes to the number of steps I take every day! I need to up the average of 10,000 to 12,000 or so because I go over that 10,000 almost everyday according to my fitbit. But that makes me feel good.
-why is it when your hungry and you don't know what for, you can't find anything. Then later when you aren't looking for something to eat you find all kinds of good things that you just didn't see before!
-why do warm chocolate chip cookies and cold milk taste so good together? I'm hungry just thinking about it!
-your friends and the people you surround yourself with really do make a difference in your attitude and outlook. If they are negative then you will be too. If they are positive and fun then you reflect them as well! This is fun to see in kids and who their friends are-we all know those people who just are not good for the people they are hanging out with.
-a negative attitude will give you a very negative life.
-cleaning out and getting rid of "crap" is always a good feeling. It gives me a fresh new look!
-some people leave such an impact on you life-regardless if you know them your entire life or for a short time, they make such a difference!
Positive thought of the day: I believe for as busy as today is and how crazy busy life is that it is a lot better than being bored and lonely.
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Monday, January 12, 2015
A new year...with new choices
I'm not good with big life decisions....what color to paint a room, whether to pull up carpeting or not, what to serve for a meal-ya, I know these are not big life decisions but its about as big as I've had to deal with over the past few years. I just do my thing and make the daily small decisions and keep moving along. So when BIG decisions come along, I try to use past experiences and to be well educated to know all the facts to help in my decisions.
With this new year comes a new big decision for me. I've done a lot of question asking and research. I've written down a pros and cons list. I've talked to a couple of people about the situation, but not many as I'm trying to do this on my own. But I always ask for insight or how things look from their angle, is there something I'm missing? I only ask people I trust and think will offer insight.
I've left the entire situation through this whole experience in God's hands from start and now to finish. And right now I find myself asking God "what should I do"? Is this the right thing? Is this a good change or am I not seeing the forest for the trees and making a wrong choice-I've been there before. I just keep asking as this has been a "lets just try and see where it goes experience" from the start. Am I running from something that is not that big of a deal and I'm making it a big deal? I've prayed for guidance and wisdom and clear vision.
Yes, I've gotten burned by a job before. What was said and what was actually done were two different things and I got burned and I'm not so trusting. You'd think after 15+ years I'd be beyond that by now. Nope.
Is this step in the right direction for me and my family? Or am I hesitant because of past experiences or because this is not for me? Am I missing the signs to move on or stay put? And I can't look ahead wondering if I do move on and things aren't like I hope then what do I do-my past experience? And there is the fear of change-some people embrace it, some people do anything to avoid it and others plunge into it feet first and thrive on it and are constantly looking for changes. I'm kind of middle of the road when it comes to changes....I love to clean out or re-arrange but I will admit I'm scared when it comes to jobs.
The daily life and being familiar is always a comfort thing for all of us. We like to relax and have safety in life. It makes us feel good. And then I look at my situation and think, this is not that big of a deal. God brought me to this and he hasn't left me alone or high and dry yet. Take the hint and lets go either make the best of where you are or move on. There is the key phrase of this whole situation "lets go, either make the best of where you are or move on".
Change is good and being stuck in an uncreative rut is not. So I've set a personal deadline and I will stick to it and make my decision and like I do with all things I put my trust in God and what he has planned for me. I am just along for the ride, like I always have been and always will be.
So say a prayer that whatever choice I make it is the right one and for me to deal with that decision with grace and a positive outlook and not regret.
Positive thought of the day: Freedom of choice. We are so lucky to live in a country that allows us to make changes and choices in our careers and personal lives. Appreciate it and thank God if you are not doing something you hate or are forced to do. Freedom is a gift.
With this new year comes a new big decision for me. I've done a lot of question asking and research. I've written down a pros and cons list. I've talked to a couple of people about the situation, but not many as I'm trying to do this on my own. But I always ask for insight or how things look from their angle, is there something I'm missing? I only ask people I trust and think will offer insight.
I've left the entire situation through this whole experience in God's hands from start and now to finish. And right now I find myself asking God "what should I do"? Is this the right thing? Is this a good change or am I not seeing the forest for the trees and making a wrong choice-I've been there before. I just keep asking as this has been a "lets just try and see where it goes experience" from the start. Am I running from something that is not that big of a deal and I'm making it a big deal? I've prayed for guidance and wisdom and clear vision.
Yes, I've gotten burned by a job before. What was said and what was actually done were two different things and I got burned and I'm not so trusting. You'd think after 15+ years I'd be beyond that by now. Nope.
Is this step in the right direction for me and my family? Or am I hesitant because of past experiences or because this is not for me? Am I missing the signs to move on or stay put? And I can't look ahead wondering if I do move on and things aren't like I hope then what do I do-my past experience? And there is the fear of change-some people embrace it, some people do anything to avoid it and others plunge into it feet first and thrive on it and are constantly looking for changes. I'm kind of middle of the road when it comes to changes....I love to clean out or re-arrange but I will admit I'm scared when it comes to jobs.
The daily life and being familiar is always a comfort thing for all of us. We like to relax and have safety in life. It makes us feel good. And then I look at my situation and think, this is not that big of a deal. God brought me to this and he hasn't left me alone or high and dry yet. Take the hint and lets go either make the best of where you are or move on. There is the key phrase of this whole situation "lets go, either make the best of where you are or move on".
Change is good and being stuck in an uncreative rut is not. So I've set a personal deadline and I will stick to it and make my decision and like I do with all things I put my trust in God and what he has planned for me. I am just along for the ride, like I always have been and always will be.
So say a prayer that whatever choice I make it is the right one and for me to deal with that decision with grace and a positive outlook and not regret.
Positive thought of the day: Freedom of choice. We are so lucky to live in a country that allows us to make changes and choices in our careers and personal lives. Appreciate it and thank God if you are not doing something you hate or are forced to do. Freedom is a gift.
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