How they make you feel

We all say things that someone may take the wrong way-it's the hazards of speaking! But most of the time people take things that you say with the intention good and bad that you say and mean it. You can tell someone something over and over again but how you say it will be remembered long after the words are forgotten.

Your tone of voice and body language speak volumes, even when you don't mean to or you do! Everyone has their own "battle' that they are fighting so be kind! And a cardinal rule most people forget is think before you speak and when in doubt keep it to yourself.

I'm battling my own battle at home....a deaf kitten who can not tell my tone of voice, much less hear me when I yell at him to stop biting the other cat who is a bit handicapped, over weight and just a sweet cat who has a kind heart! Babs would not hurt a fly but moves like I do most mornings, very slowing and slightly handicapped! But she and I are fed up with the opened mouth, sharp tooth attacks coming her way, and my way too at times. This overly energetic kitten is also an enjoyment to have around, a companion for all of us! But we do have a language barrier as no one understands sign language!! My latest method of "dealing" is stomping my foot on the floor-ya that's not working so great.  Babs and I hear mournful crying whenever Frosty is left alone now, like the other day when Babs and I were upstairs. We both heard Frosty crying, we looked at each other and knew it would do no good to call or stomp as he would not hear us. Actually Babs gave me a look like please don't find him-I could relate! He got lost looking for us and I wasn't sure where he was for about 10 minutes as I'm sure he got side tracked while searching! But I knew as soon as he did find us as he was tormenting Babs with kitten bites and Babs was crying now. I also started to notice Frosty was starting to cower from me and I felt badly, after all he is a kitten, he needs to learn. Only I would have a deaf kitten and a handicapped, over-weight cat as part of my household. So to remedy the fear Frosty was having regarding me I started some one-on-one time. Time I would only spend with Babs before this. Well it is working! Frosty is my morning buddy, following me while Babs plays in the water from the shower. He helps me dry my hair. He can't hear the blow dryer and thinks it is great fun to have it blow on him! He grabs at my toes from under the bed while I dress and has now taken to jumping up on the counter to be closer to me while I continue to get ready. I think he enjoys it and he seems to be calming down! Yay! He's figuring out that I'm not a big meany but I can about him.

My point in all of this is you don't have to say a word and your actions speak louder than any words ever can. Even deaf kittens can tell how you feel and your attitude towards them. It's all in your approach-how you make them feel.

Positive thought of the day: I'm trying hard not to let my expressions and actions show to people I don't care for or what around...we are all human. For some people a kind word or look is the only nice part of their whole day.