Don't judge me

I have a friend, who was having a bad day yesterday but she ask me if I was okay when we saw each other? This friend just got through the one year anniversary of her husband passing away and is still going through some emotions and tough times dealing with this. She is spending this weekend with her mom and sisters on a road trip to attend the graduation of one of her sisters and is not looking forward to the trip, the time with family nor being away from home which is the only place she wants to be right now. My friend seemed very discontent and unhappy when we saw each other and talked. So when she asked me "how I was?" I was rather surprised by her question. She then added that she was wondering by my posts that I put on social media. Really? Do you think everything I post pertains to me or someone else in particular? Nope!

I'm a quote junkie-big time! I like to be motivated. My phone's camera roll is filled with pictures of quotes that I like on a cool background. So for my friend to say this to me kind of surprised me. So I took the time today to look back at my posts, most are photos with quotes or articles that I've shared over the past month or so. I like to be motivated, plain and simple. I also like to support causes that deserve to be supported. One of my biggest causes to support is women. Women are not treated right in this day and age, YET. I work at a place where women are treated as second behind any male in the building. And if you are support staff in addition to being female....well I'll just say it's pretty poor. We have the "good ole' boys club" back in the building which is sad, to say the least. But my goal is to help women understand that they should NOT be treated like this and if ONE female recognizes herself in something I post and it helps her have a better day, become a better person then I don't care. If it's a good cause or something that I believe in then I'll share it, post it and hope someone else gets something out of it as well. But really, do you think my posts are all about me? So all the sports posts I share mean I am a parent of an athlete, I used to be. Or that I coach at the college or professional level-nope. Or that society is pretty screwed up when it comes to our kids participating in extra curricular-yep, it is. I can't change it alone nor will it change in one day. Yes, I'm a redhead and finally proud of it and embrace that fact. Yes, I'm sassy at times, who isn't?

But to have someone say that to me that at first kind of worried me then, it I had me looking at myself through my posts. Okay, so my friend see's me how she see's me, I can't help or change that. It's her opinion and view. So what? I also know she is going through a lot of crap and her feelings are her feelings, I'm not here to judge or validate. I just support and let her deal with it how she chooses to deal with it. I have no idea what it is like to go through what she is going through. But I'm not going to judge because this attitude and behavior are not normal for my friend. But the one year anniversary of her husband's death was just earlier this week. Very, very hard, no doubt. She was not herself yesterday at all. Am I concerned about her, you bet? But it is her way of dealing and she could just be having a hard time right now. And she has every right to.

We've all read the posts or seen the photos or rants that some people post on social media who are having a bad day or things are not going right. We've all been there. It's just how life goes. But I don't judge unless it is happening all the time. Then I get a little concerned. But everyone deals with and see's thing differently. How I'd do something I know is not how the next person would do it. It is what it is. That's life.

So for today, I'm going take what my friend said with a grain of salt. Text her later to check on her and say a prayer that today is a better day for her and that life shows her some sunshine rather than rain.

If I don't like or care for what someone says or posts on social media I usually laugh at the stupidity, then either keep scrolling or hide it so I don't have to see it again. It's just social media-it's not the gospel truth and if I've learned anything in life is that you can't believe everything you read or hear.