I have to admit that Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays, if not the most favorite. The 4th of July holiday used to be a favorite but not so much any more. But Thanksgiving is a holiday that is all about family, appreciating all you are blessed with and being with others. There is no decorating, or holiday shopping rush. It seems to be a holiday that is getting muscled out by all those who want to rush into the Christmas season. But when it comes down to it, Thanksgiving needs to hold it's ground and make it a first priority over Christmas and all that goes with it.
I love the few days before Thanksgiving more than the days before Christmas. It seems with Christmas I am stressing out, cooking, food and Christmas shopping and all the rat race that goes with it. The week of Thanksgiving is about the food and preparing for those who are coming to celebrate. My kids arrive home some time that week and it becomes all about family and the meals and the time together. There is laundry and cooking in there too. But the fun times of spending time together are what I love the most. Laughter and cooking together have become more of a norm for us. And regardless of who does or does not make it home or who are no longer with us to celebrate the holiday, they are still with us in spirit. I love the feeling that we are here to celebrate each other rather than gifts and such.
So as this weekend winds down and I look back on the past four days I have nothing but great memories and leftovers that I shared! Yes it is a lot of work but so worth it. I enjoy the time together and the memories we made. Once everyone is back where they are suppose to be I will rest easy and head into the new week ahead. Thank you to all who made this holiday a thankful one for me, regardless if you were here or not- you were missed but I'm still thankful for all those who have been and still are part of my life.
Positive thought of the day: I'm thankful for the time I had with friends and family. It was all about the people and time spent together.
Sunday, November 30, 2014
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
A lot to be thankful for!
On this Thanksgiving eve we all typically reflect on what it is we are most thankful for. There is the standard and always popular- family- friends- a job-car-home-food on the table and such.
But what about the little things? The ability to swing your legs over the side of the bed each morning. Or the ability to see or breath freely, or to be able to go where you want because you are able and because you live in a free country. As a society we have a lot of things that we take for granted each day and usually never give it a second thought. The healthcare we do get, or the prescription that we can get filled to help maintain or improve our health.
The simple luxuries of filling your vehicle with gas and having the money to do so. Also the ability to run to the grocery store to get that gallon of milk or the fresh produce or meat for a healthy meal-these are indeed reasons to be thankful. Some people in this world, country, state or hometown don't know where their next meal is coming from.
You don't know what you've got until it's gone is a common statement and applies to tons of things. It could be someone who is gone from your life due to death, or by choice or because of a job or other commitment-appreciate those people regardless if they are still in this world or not. Appreciate the people around you, the good ones and the bad ones who make you appreciate the good ones!
And while you may not be celebrating this Thanksgiving holiday with all those you love and treasure it does not mean we are not thankful or the holiday has less meaning.
If miles are keeping your from a loved ones remember we are still very, very blessed for the fact that in this day and age of technology we can communicate instantly, 24/7. No more taking pictures and getting the film developed then getting prints and mailing them to people-you can take a picture and less than 5 seconds later they've got it!
So enjoy this season of thankfulness and try to keep this thankful feeling in your heart each day all throughout the year....because each and every day is a gift as well as the people who are in you life.
Positive thought of the day: THANK YOU!!!
But what about the little things? The ability to swing your legs over the side of the bed each morning. Or the ability to see or breath freely, or to be able to go where you want because you are able and because you live in a free country. As a society we have a lot of things that we take for granted each day and usually never give it a second thought. The healthcare we do get, or the prescription that we can get filled to help maintain or improve our health.
The simple luxuries of filling your vehicle with gas and having the money to do so. Also the ability to run to the grocery store to get that gallon of milk or the fresh produce or meat for a healthy meal-these are indeed reasons to be thankful. Some people in this world, country, state or hometown don't know where their next meal is coming from.
You don't know what you've got until it's gone is a common statement and applies to tons of things. It could be someone who is gone from your life due to death, or by choice or because of a job or other commitment-appreciate those people regardless if they are still in this world or not. Appreciate the people around you, the good ones and the bad ones who make you appreciate the good ones!
And while you may not be celebrating this Thanksgiving holiday with all those you love and treasure it does not mean we are not thankful or the holiday has less meaning.
If miles are keeping your from a loved ones remember we are still very, very blessed for the fact that in this day and age of technology we can communicate instantly, 24/7. No more taking pictures and getting the film developed then getting prints and mailing them to people-you can take a picture and less than 5 seconds later they've got it!
So enjoy this season of thankfulness and try to keep this thankful feeling in your heart each day all throughout the year....because each and every day is a gift as well as the people who are in you life.
Positive thought of the day: THANK YOU!!!
Thursday, November 20, 2014
Count with me...5...6...7...8!
I've never been a morning person, try as I might I still struggle with early mornings and I get worse with getting up early as the week goes along, not terrible but I'm not so gung-ho on Thursday as I am on Monday or Tuesday. BUT I no longer sleep in on the weekends. It wacks out my schedule. So early morning dance practice is not a favorite but we do get a lot done. And ya' gotta do what you've gotta do!
People are either morning people or not. Some people love mornings and get more done before the sun comes up than other people get done all day. I must admit I do get a lot done when I have to get up in the mornings. But being organized the night before is the secret to success for anyone's morning. I like to have everything ready the night before so if there are any glitches I can deal with them and keep moving rather than causing havoc and slowing me down.
You can tell who the morning people are when it comes to adults and kids. Some of my kids show up to early practices all bright eyed and bushy tailed, smiling and ready to roll. Others roll into practice grumpy and looking like they just got out of bed, which they probably did. And then there are those who have that grumpy look no matter what time of the day their day starts.
With dance you use counting, usually either with an 8 or 12 count. And I've noticed that at morning practices counting seems to be a struggle quite often. If you are suppose to go on the 6-count, go on the 6-count. Not the 5-1/2 count or the 7 count-the blessed SIX count!! After having a great practice yesterday after school my girls struggled with the simple task of counting and going on their count over and over and over again this morning. Not sure what the reason is, but counting to 8 and going on YOUR count was all over the place today and a struggle!
I used to use the "count to three" method with my own kids when they were little. They knew when I started counting they'd better be done doing whatever it was they were doing by the time I reached the number three. But alas my youngest son was sometimes a bit of a pill and so when I'd start to count to three he would often finish. After I would say 1...he would quickly add 2....3!!! It was funny but also frustrating! I don't honestly think he knew what he was doing other than counting with me!! Learning numbers and letter is important in early development! I'm wondering if he was at that time thinking his mom wasn't too smart since she could only count to three most days!!
I don't like to get in people's faces as far as when they are screwing up. But with this group of dancers, this year rather than make a general correction, I now call the girl out on her mess up. It's how I have to deal with this group with the circumstances we've had. I'm not longer being Mr. Nice-guy-too bad that's the way it goes. I'm sure to a couple of girls it feels like I am always on their case. But we are only as strong as our weakest dancer. Learn to count, listen and pay attention. So my solution to fix our counting problems, now that we are two weeks away from state, is EVERYBODY counts with me! All together now!! It usually does the trick and gets things into their brains and muscle memory! Counting to 8 with Lynn may be a good title for this method!
We are always counting, and as a non-math person I deal with math all the time. YUCK! Actually I'm a math hater, I dislike math with a passion but we use simple math daily from how many days until the weekend or next break to how to stage a dance and count it with the choreography to figuring out totals and such. It's just part of life.
So I guess my whole play on numbers is how important it is do your part are in life, from dancing to counting on people and working together. Know your counts, do your part and come in on YOUR count for pete's sake!
Positive thought of the day: Work together not against one another! : )
People are either morning people or not. Some people love mornings and get more done before the sun comes up than other people get done all day. I must admit I do get a lot done when I have to get up in the mornings. But being organized the night before is the secret to success for anyone's morning. I like to have everything ready the night before so if there are any glitches I can deal with them and keep moving rather than causing havoc and slowing me down.
You can tell who the morning people are when it comes to adults and kids. Some of my kids show up to early practices all bright eyed and bushy tailed, smiling and ready to roll. Others roll into practice grumpy and looking like they just got out of bed, which they probably did. And then there are those who have that grumpy look no matter what time of the day their day starts.
With dance you use counting, usually either with an 8 or 12 count. And I've noticed that at morning practices counting seems to be a struggle quite often. If you are suppose to go on the 6-count, go on the 6-count. Not the 5-1/2 count or the 7 count-the blessed SIX count!! After having a great practice yesterday after school my girls struggled with the simple task of counting and going on their count over and over and over again this morning. Not sure what the reason is, but counting to 8 and going on YOUR count was all over the place today and a struggle!
I used to use the "count to three" method with my own kids when they were little. They knew when I started counting they'd better be done doing whatever it was they were doing by the time I reached the number three. But alas my youngest son was sometimes a bit of a pill and so when I'd start to count to three he would often finish. After I would say 1...he would quickly add 2....3!!! It was funny but also frustrating! I don't honestly think he knew what he was doing other than counting with me!! Learning numbers and letter is important in early development! I'm wondering if he was at that time thinking his mom wasn't too smart since she could only count to three most days!!
I don't like to get in people's faces as far as when they are screwing up. But with this group of dancers, this year rather than make a general correction, I now call the girl out on her mess up. It's how I have to deal with this group with the circumstances we've had. I'm not longer being Mr. Nice-guy-too bad that's the way it goes. I'm sure to a couple of girls it feels like I am always on their case. But we are only as strong as our weakest dancer. Learn to count, listen and pay attention. So my solution to fix our counting problems, now that we are two weeks away from state, is EVERYBODY counts with me! All together now!! It usually does the trick and gets things into their brains and muscle memory! Counting to 8 with Lynn may be a good title for this method!
We are always counting, and as a non-math person I deal with math all the time. YUCK! Actually I'm a math hater, I dislike math with a passion but we use simple math daily from how many days until the weekend or next break to how to stage a dance and count it with the choreography to figuring out totals and such. It's just part of life.
So I guess my whole play on numbers is how important it is do your part are in life, from dancing to counting on people and working together. Know your counts, do your part and come in on YOUR count for pete's sake!
Positive thought of the day: Work together not against one another! : )
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
"I just like to smile, smiling's my favorite!!"
What makes you laugh or brings a smile to your face? Have you ever been in one of those situations where you are suppose to be serious but something funny happens and it hits you as incredibly humorous and you just can't contain your laughter or you end up looking like you are guilty when all you are doing is finding humor but trying to keep a straight face? Ah yes, we've all been there! I have a couple of occasions that I still think back to that bring a smile to my face or even a laugh! I love these moments.
There is a fine line between finding humor and laughing with someone and at someone else's mistakes or accidents-those hurt. I have someone in my life who takes great pleasure in laughing at and loves to draw attention to my blunders or lack of grace when I have those moments. This hurts my feelings-yep, I just admitted it. I know we all have our less than graceful moments but for me when someone trips or blunders, especially in front of other people I try to ignore or make light of it rather than draw attention-I try to be compassionate. We all know those people who take great pleasure in seeing other people mess up...not sure why or if they realize they do this, but this behavior has changed how much I interact or deal with this person, unless I absolutely have to. It's like they just wait for me to mess up. I just want to say to this person go find something positive to do with yourself rather than make me even more embarrassed or uncomfortable in life : (
Anyway back to humor in life! I love to laugh and find humor in life. I'll be the first one to laugh at myself for whatever reason.
I remember sitting in church once with my eldest niece and the bible reading by the lector was not funny but in the way the lady reading it did it. She read s-l-o-w-l-y and enunciated each and every word and read with exaggerated expression. It was not a drama filled scripture reading! It hit my niece, Brenda, and I as incredibly funny in the same way. We could not contain ourselves nor get ourselves pulled together. It was so bad that I thought I was settled down but then saw her shoulders shaking and I was a goner again! We got nothing out of church that day and to this day when I think about it I start to giggle and if I hear that bible reading it brings back great memories. I can even quote a few lines and do them just like that lady did that day!
It also seems that when life is tough or stressful or sad that laughter can help make things a little less as bad. I had an experience with my mom and sisters as we sat with my dad as he was in the last days of his life. I accidentally gave a close family relative the wrong name and everyone knew who I meant and it immediately hit us all as hysterically funny-we laughed and giggled about it for some time. It was still a running joke between my sisters and I when my mom passed.
I was about asleep last night when my lovely little, white, half-grown, kitten-Frosty decide it was a good idea and time to get up on the dresser that is sitting slightly askew from the wall. I turned off the lights and was trying to relax and fall asleep but Frosty thought it was playtime. I suddenly heard a clunk and this was followed by pitiful "meows" that also sounded rather muffled. I wondered and guess that someone had fallen behind the dresser and was stuck as I turned on the light. I was right! Guess who was behind the dresser and could not move or get out....I slid the dresser out and he was baffled by the room and just stood there. I was laughing and had to reach back and pick him up to get him out from behind the dresser. He was grateful and followed me then to bed, but I laid there in the dark laughing for quite some time. Only Frosty would do this kind of thing, in the dark and at night!
Anyway my point in all of this is that humor, in a positive way, is good for you! Laughter helps lift spirits and reduce stress. And I know there is a whole host of medical benefits of laughter. And honestly I have those days where I try to smile at someone who I am pretty sure won't smile back on purpose, and when I do smile and they don't smile back I have a little bit of an "upper hand moment". Ha! You can walk around frowning at the world and you are going to get that right back. I choose to smile and I usually get that back too...except for those really, really miserable people who no one wants to be around anyway. Go ahead and frown-you won't get far in life looking like that!
Positive thought of the day: Find something that makes you laugh and enjoy that laughter!
There is a fine line between finding humor and laughing with someone and at someone else's mistakes or accidents-those hurt. I have someone in my life who takes great pleasure in laughing at and loves to draw attention to my blunders or lack of grace when I have those moments. This hurts my feelings-yep, I just admitted it. I know we all have our less than graceful moments but for me when someone trips or blunders, especially in front of other people I try to ignore or make light of it rather than draw attention-I try to be compassionate. We all know those people who take great pleasure in seeing other people mess up...not sure why or if they realize they do this, but this behavior has changed how much I interact or deal with this person, unless I absolutely have to. It's like they just wait for me to mess up. I just want to say to this person go find something positive to do with yourself rather than make me even more embarrassed or uncomfortable in life : (
Anyway back to humor in life! I love to laugh and find humor in life. I'll be the first one to laugh at myself for whatever reason.
I remember sitting in church once with my eldest niece and the bible reading by the lector was not funny but in the way the lady reading it did it. She read s-l-o-w-l-y and enunciated each and every word and read with exaggerated expression. It was not a drama filled scripture reading! It hit my niece, Brenda, and I as incredibly funny in the same way. We could not contain ourselves nor get ourselves pulled together. It was so bad that I thought I was settled down but then saw her shoulders shaking and I was a goner again! We got nothing out of church that day and to this day when I think about it I start to giggle and if I hear that bible reading it brings back great memories. I can even quote a few lines and do them just like that lady did that day!
It also seems that when life is tough or stressful or sad that laughter can help make things a little less as bad. I had an experience with my mom and sisters as we sat with my dad as he was in the last days of his life. I accidentally gave a close family relative the wrong name and everyone knew who I meant and it immediately hit us all as hysterically funny-we laughed and giggled about it for some time. It was still a running joke between my sisters and I when my mom passed.
I was about asleep last night when my lovely little, white, half-grown, kitten-Frosty decide it was a good idea and time to get up on the dresser that is sitting slightly askew from the wall. I turned off the lights and was trying to relax and fall asleep but Frosty thought it was playtime. I suddenly heard a clunk and this was followed by pitiful "meows" that also sounded rather muffled. I wondered and guess that someone had fallen behind the dresser and was stuck as I turned on the light. I was right! Guess who was behind the dresser and could not move or get out....I slid the dresser out and he was baffled by the room and just stood there. I was laughing and had to reach back and pick him up to get him out from behind the dresser. He was grateful and followed me then to bed, but I laid there in the dark laughing for quite some time. Only Frosty would do this kind of thing, in the dark and at night!
Anyway my point in all of this is that humor, in a positive way, is good for you! Laughter helps lift spirits and reduce stress. And I know there is a whole host of medical benefits of laughter. And honestly I have those days where I try to smile at someone who I am pretty sure won't smile back on purpose, and when I do smile and they don't smile back I have a little bit of an "upper hand moment". Ha! You can walk around frowning at the world and you are going to get that right back. I choose to smile and I usually get that back too...except for those really, really miserable people who no one wants to be around anyway. Go ahead and frown-you won't get far in life looking like that!
Positive thought of the day: Find something that makes you laugh and enjoy that laughter!
Thursday, November 6, 2014
Come to Jesus!
No I'm not getting on my religious high horse in this blog! This is the term I use when someone or ones need a dose of reality. It can be a short and brief comment or a full out-"wake the hell up" kind of talk. Either way it hopefully does the trick when it is needed and used!
I had one of these talks with my "team" the other day. I felt like we'd hit rock bottom and we have no where to go but up and there was no way I was giving up.
I chewed them out, I gave them a dose of reality and I didn't ask but I gave them an either or choice in this situation-either straightened up/out AND I'm going to be in your face, in front of God and everyone telling your about your lack of-be it your poor attitude or your half ass-ed attempt at things or you're out. That may be how you do things in your world, but not how we are going to do things in mine. And if you don't like it-there's the door is how I put it in a nut shell.
It shook them up. I had some near tears. Some were pissed off-probably at me-good or if they were pissed at their teammates-that's even better! And some sat nodding as they are the ones who are already giving it their all and didn't need the "come to Jesus" meeting in the first place but had to sit through it anyway. I had two girls missing-they both of course needed to be at this meeting as they were part also of our big problem-they'll get the abbreviated version in their face in front of the whole team at practice some day if they don't heed the version someone on the team hopefully gave them. I hope they did a good impression of me when they did it.
I don't very often hit a wall or have a straw break the camel's back in my world. But I hit that point on Sunday. Frustration does not begin to define how I felt. Very pissed off was more like it. And after meeting with the individual and the other coach who was responsible for my frustration I had an even worse attitude. You can't make people see things if they don't want to. Some people will never see things from the other side of the desk. It's all about ME-is their way of thinking. No it's not-it's all about US-ALL of us.
So I cancelled a big fund raiser and told my girls that state was probably out on Sunday. They were upset, as they should be. But when I threw down the gauntlet one young lady, someone I least expected, picked it up and rounded up the troops and started to lead them. Amen!! Did she do a good job, hard telling, but at least she dug her heals in and tried which is more than I can say for the rest of the bunch. To be honest it was one of the least likely girls to do so. After a couple of pretty frustrating days I had my "come to Jesus" meeting with my team. I then threw a whole heap of responsibility onto my parents shoulders via an email later that day. My parents are pretty lazy and do little if anything to support our program and their daughters. I was truthful, honest and told the parents how it was going to be and they too were now going to be held responsible for their daughters schedules, their behavior and their attitude. I've got a couple of girls who have what some of us females call PBF (permanent bitch face). Which means they always look pissed at the world, they are always unhappy, the glass is always half empty and the day mostly cloudy. They are no fun to be around and you sure as hell don't want to have anything to do with them. We all know people, not always women who always have that "look". Well they'd better leave that PBF at the door from now on.
After my "come to Jesus" meeting with my girls, then the email to parents I finally felt like a weight was off my shoulders. I got mad at the people who were ruining things and taking things away because of their lousy attitude and tremendous lack of commitment to their team. No way was I going to let these people win and bring us down. We were about as down as we could get. So I got up early the morning of our next practice and spent about two hours getting some things changed, worked out and ready for practice yesterday. I went in with a new set of rules and goals and I told my girls we were not going to have a can do attitude but a will do attitude. Those young ladies worked hard yesterday minus two of our "problems" one was gone again (go figure) and one "forgot" practice-ya right. Too bad. We went on without them and their place on the team is questionable at best.
This morning at practice EVERYONE was there. YEP! Woo hoo all NINE showed up, even the sick one and the suspended one. And we were all business and worked hard for over an hour. There was no screwing around or little groups of chatter and no one practiced half ass-ed. They worked, they did their part, they gave input when asked. Absolutely the way it should be. No more prisoners running the prison which is a lot of the way I feel at work every day. It is not happening on my watch.
So did my "come to Jesus" meeting work? I think so. If anything it scared them as I covered things all around the horn, not just dance team. I hit life in general. Too often we let the negative in life get in the way and cloud the good stuff. I can't make people change their attitudes but they will check it at the door when they are mine. Put on your big girl panties and grow up is in short what I was trying to tell some of those girls on Tuesday.
Positive thought of the day: See the glass as half FULL rather than half empty-life is a lot better when you do.
I had one of these talks with my "team" the other day. I felt like we'd hit rock bottom and we have no where to go but up and there was no way I was giving up.
I chewed them out, I gave them a dose of reality and I didn't ask but I gave them an either or choice in this situation-either straightened up/out AND I'm going to be in your face, in front of God and everyone telling your about your lack of-be it your poor attitude or your half ass-ed attempt at things or you're out. That may be how you do things in your world, but not how we are going to do things in mine. And if you don't like it-there's the door is how I put it in a nut shell.
It shook them up. I had some near tears. Some were pissed off-probably at me-good or if they were pissed at their teammates-that's even better! And some sat nodding as they are the ones who are already giving it their all and didn't need the "come to Jesus" meeting in the first place but had to sit through it anyway. I had two girls missing-they both of course needed to be at this meeting as they were part also of our big problem-they'll get the abbreviated version in their face in front of the whole team at practice some day if they don't heed the version someone on the team hopefully gave them. I hope they did a good impression of me when they did it.
I don't very often hit a wall or have a straw break the camel's back in my world. But I hit that point on Sunday. Frustration does not begin to define how I felt. Very pissed off was more like it. And after meeting with the individual and the other coach who was responsible for my frustration I had an even worse attitude. You can't make people see things if they don't want to. Some people will never see things from the other side of the desk. It's all about ME-is their way of thinking. No it's not-it's all about US-ALL of us.
So I cancelled a big fund raiser and told my girls that state was probably out on Sunday. They were upset, as they should be. But when I threw down the gauntlet one young lady, someone I least expected, picked it up and rounded up the troops and started to lead them. Amen!! Did she do a good job, hard telling, but at least she dug her heals in and tried which is more than I can say for the rest of the bunch. To be honest it was one of the least likely girls to do so. After a couple of pretty frustrating days I had my "come to Jesus" meeting with my team. I then threw a whole heap of responsibility onto my parents shoulders via an email later that day. My parents are pretty lazy and do little if anything to support our program and their daughters. I was truthful, honest and told the parents how it was going to be and they too were now going to be held responsible for their daughters schedules, their behavior and their attitude. I've got a couple of girls who have what some of us females call PBF (permanent bitch face). Which means they always look pissed at the world, they are always unhappy, the glass is always half empty and the day mostly cloudy. They are no fun to be around and you sure as hell don't want to have anything to do with them. We all know people, not always women who always have that "look". Well they'd better leave that PBF at the door from now on.
After my "come to Jesus" meeting with my girls, then the email to parents I finally felt like a weight was off my shoulders. I got mad at the people who were ruining things and taking things away because of their lousy attitude and tremendous lack of commitment to their team. No way was I going to let these people win and bring us down. We were about as down as we could get. So I got up early the morning of our next practice and spent about two hours getting some things changed, worked out and ready for practice yesterday. I went in with a new set of rules and goals and I told my girls we were not going to have a can do attitude but a will do attitude. Those young ladies worked hard yesterday minus two of our "problems" one was gone again (go figure) and one "forgot" practice-ya right. Too bad. We went on without them and their place on the team is questionable at best.
This morning at practice EVERYONE was there. YEP! Woo hoo all NINE showed up, even the sick one and the suspended one. And we were all business and worked hard for over an hour. There was no screwing around or little groups of chatter and no one practiced half ass-ed. They worked, they did their part, they gave input when asked. Absolutely the way it should be. No more prisoners running the prison which is a lot of the way I feel at work every day. It is not happening on my watch.
So did my "come to Jesus" meeting work? I think so. If anything it scared them as I covered things all around the horn, not just dance team. I hit life in general. Too often we let the negative in life get in the way and cloud the good stuff. I can't make people change their attitudes but they will check it at the door when they are mine. Put on your big girl panties and grow up is in short what I was trying to tell some of those girls on Tuesday.
Positive thought of the day: See the glass as half FULL rather than half empty-life is a lot better when you do.
Monday, November 3, 2014
I've got nothing
I've had a couple of weeks where it has been extremely stressful and terrible busy. I know everyone has these days, weeks or months. But I'm to the point where I have nothing-no more to give-I'm out of ideas. I don't honestly know what to do next.
This has been extreme as far as the emotional part and I refer to the entire situation as "the elephant in the room". An individual has done something, several times, to teammates and while it was not directed at my activity it does affect everyone on my team in a variety of ways and the biggest being that we have the elephant in the room at every practice. We are on pins and needles most of the time. It is nice to see those rare moments when we forget the world and everyone is the same and we dance and forget the problems-I see brief moments of happiness and fun. But in reality the emotions are high and feelings run a whole gamut from anger to hurt to mistrust. To say we were or still may at times be reeling is an understatement. And worse of all is our sense of team. We have no leadership and our "leader" constantly is missing practices which does nothing but hurt us.
I have no directive from by "bosses" in all of this as to what is going on or how to deal with all of this other than I'm not allowed to discuss things. I sure as hell don't what to discuss things or to know the details! I just want to help girls deal with this, feel safe and bring back a sense of TEAM. And in truth, as I feared, this is killing my program. I feel like I am on the Titanic trying to bail the water with a teaspoon, okay maybe a tablespoon. It's just is not working. I'm tying to wipe the the slate clean and reduce stress-we'll see how that works? I hope less stress and less demands help fix things or at best they settle down. Time will tell.
We all make mistakes and make wrong choices. Live and learn. Make those wrong choices lessons-learn from them rather than let them define you. I have no idea what to do other than I'm still trying. The more normal things are the better, I think.
But on the flip side I don't think we should use this as an excuse for things. Lack of leadership or not showing up for practice is not an answer or a way to deal with things. Some people can't help themselves. They jump on the rumor mill wagon and try to make the most of the ride or make it all about them! Really people?
I personally wish none of this would have happened. It has and I just want it to go away-wishful thinking on my part. Oh well. So as I continue to bail the water on the Titanic I will keep trying to come up with a solution or at least some way to bring back some normalcy-happiness and fun to our TEAM. After all that is what this should all be about-the team.
Positive thought of the day: I'm still trying to come up with something for this.....so far, no luck.
This has been extreme as far as the emotional part and I refer to the entire situation as "the elephant in the room". An individual has done something, several times, to teammates and while it was not directed at my activity it does affect everyone on my team in a variety of ways and the biggest being that we have the elephant in the room at every practice. We are on pins and needles most of the time. It is nice to see those rare moments when we forget the world and everyone is the same and we dance and forget the problems-I see brief moments of happiness and fun. But in reality the emotions are high and feelings run a whole gamut from anger to hurt to mistrust. To say we were or still may at times be reeling is an understatement. And worse of all is our sense of team. We have no leadership and our "leader" constantly is missing practices which does nothing but hurt us.
I have no directive from by "bosses" in all of this as to what is going on or how to deal with all of this other than I'm not allowed to discuss things. I sure as hell don't what to discuss things or to know the details! I just want to help girls deal with this, feel safe and bring back a sense of TEAM. And in truth, as I feared, this is killing my program. I feel like I am on the Titanic trying to bail the water with a teaspoon, okay maybe a tablespoon. It's just is not working. I'm tying to wipe the the slate clean and reduce stress-we'll see how that works? I hope less stress and less demands help fix things or at best they settle down. Time will tell.
We all make mistakes and make wrong choices. Live and learn. Make those wrong choices lessons-learn from them rather than let them define you. I have no idea what to do other than I'm still trying. The more normal things are the better, I think.
But on the flip side I don't think we should use this as an excuse for things. Lack of leadership or not showing up for practice is not an answer or a way to deal with things. Some people can't help themselves. They jump on the rumor mill wagon and try to make the most of the ride or make it all about them! Really people?
I personally wish none of this would have happened. It has and I just want it to go away-wishful thinking on my part. Oh well. So as I continue to bail the water on the Titanic I will keep trying to come up with a solution or at least some way to bring back some normalcy-happiness and fun to our TEAM. After all that is what this should all be about-the team.
Positive thought of the day: I'm still trying to come up with something for this.....so far, no luck.
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