Each year our FFA program does their proverbial fruit sales. And there are typically leftover items to sell. This year the FFA teacher gave each of her students a pear (as in the fruit🍐) and told the students to go give the pear to someone who has made a difference in their life and who they appreciate.
This time of year is a tough time in education, okay it's hard in education all year long but the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas break it tough because there is so much going on and kids check out earlier and earlier every year, meaning they don't want to work-probably because there are too many distractions or they have poor work ethics. It's like this during the last month or so of the school year too!
This little act of kindness that the students did with the pears was an uplifter for me. I received three pears. (no I'm not bragging and yes I feel bad for the adults who didn't get any pears). Three students thought enough of me and the care and kindness I try to do for them to say thank you and I appreciate you by giving me a pear.
Little acts of kindness sometimes are the biggest things. A kind word can brighten someone's day and be remembered for years to come. We have a tendency to remember one negative comment over 10 positive comments. (And I think this is more the case for females over males.) But I will remember the three students who walked in, handed me a pear and told me that they appreciate me and what I do for them. Talk about touching my heart.
So today I hope someone gives you a "pear". It can be as simple as holding a door open for you or a thank you or someone telling you "good job" or thanks for your help or a smile. Everyone needs to hear this, daily if possible. A compliment, a thank you, and a smile goes a long, long way. May it be a pear-kind of day!
Tuesday, December 18, 2018
Friday, December 14, 2018
What happened to kindness?
People are pretty unkind to one another. I don't know if it is worse now than it used to be but kind is not the norm, anymore.
I was brought up in a household where we helped one another. Family helped each other. Friends helped one another. Neighbors helped one another. You helped strangers. It just is what you did. We helped one another.
I don't know what happened along the way but helping one another and being nice has gone to hell in a handbasket.
I watched my dad and mom help one another every single day of their lives together. They helped one another in every aspect of their lives.
I'm an independent, strong-willed female and I will help if at all possible-I can't fix a car, but if you need me to show up and take you to an appointment, I'll do it. I've watched over the past few years, people of my own generation just sit. Sit and watch. Sit and watch and not do a blessed thing to help one another. What happened? Ignoring one another is the new norm? I understand why we have a younger generation of people who don't know how to help one another, who are self-entitled, self-centered lazy individuals who will only help if it benefits themselves. These kids don't volunteer or help anyone out. When now live in a society who don't open doors for one another, or pick up after themselves because we have an adult generation who are, for last of a better word, pretty uncaring and self-centered and the same way as the kids. No wonder our kids are like that.
I am a female who was brought up by a mom who worked her tail off and helped both on the farm and to run a house and raise a family I have pretty much followed in the same footsteps as my mom. But my mom and dad too helped one another and helped others. I work to make and do things for my family, just like my parents did. The difference now, no one helps. As a kid, I helped my mom. I watched my dad help my mom. That doesn't happen now, or seldom if it does.
What is wrong with giving your time? I now watch people of my generation just sit and not help, not volunteer. They ignore or just sit instead of helping one another. I'm willing to volunteer my time, to help someone out. But from my coworkers to friends and to family who don't lift a finger to help each other. What has happened along the way?
I'm partially mad at my self for allowing people to treat me like I have. For not speaking up. For not saying things like "you need to help" or "you need to do this' or just plain saying "HELP me". As a female, I have allowed men in my life to be lazy, chauvinistic individuals. Gender should have absolutely nothing to do with if you help someone or not. There is no such thing as "women's work". We don't live in the 1950s. I work outside the home and when I step foot inside my home I switch jobs. I don't sit around watching tv eating bonbons and I don't do things when or if I want to. I do it because it needs to be done or because if I don't do it it won't get done and because it should be done. This is how I've allowed people around me to act and behave...and I'm mad at myself. From work and the adults around me to the kids, I deal with every day...they all have blinders on to helping one another. What had happened to society?
I can tell you that kids now have no idea how to give of their time and talents nor how to volunteer because the adults have likewise have become a bunch of self-centered individuals who somewhere along the way have forgotten how to help one another and how to be kind...it's time for this to change. And for me, well I'm going to start calling people out. I'll probably be referred to as the crazy old lady in the nursing home who is telling everyone what to do, but otherwise, no one will be doing anything. Sad but true.
Open your eyes, put down your phone, and your self-centered attitude and open a door, help carry something for someone, volunteer, do what is right, do your part....be kind.
I was brought up in a household where we helped one another. Family helped each other. Friends helped one another. Neighbors helped one another. You helped strangers. It just is what you did. We helped one another.
I don't know what happened along the way but helping one another and being nice has gone to hell in a handbasket.
I watched my dad and mom help one another every single day of their lives together. They helped one another in every aspect of their lives.
I'm an independent, strong-willed female and I will help if at all possible-I can't fix a car, but if you need me to show up and take you to an appointment, I'll do it. I've watched over the past few years, people of my own generation just sit. Sit and watch. Sit and watch and not do a blessed thing to help one another. What happened? Ignoring one another is the new norm? I understand why we have a younger generation of people who don't know how to help one another, who are self-entitled, self-centered lazy individuals who will only help if it benefits themselves. These kids don't volunteer or help anyone out. When now live in a society who don't open doors for one another, or pick up after themselves because we have an adult generation who are, for last of a better word, pretty uncaring and self-centered and the same way as the kids. No wonder our kids are like that.
I am a female who was brought up by a mom who worked her tail off and helped both on the farm and to run a house and raise a family I have pretty much followed in the same footsteps as my mom. But my mom and dad too helped one another and helped others. I work to make and do things for my family, just like my parents did. The difference now, no one helps. As a kid, I helped my mom. I watched my dad help my mom. That doesn't happen now, or seldom if it does.
What is wrong with giving your time? I now watch people of my generation just sit and not help, not volunteer. They ignore or just sit instead of helping one another. I'm willing to volunteer my time, to help someone out. But from my coworkers to friends and to family who don't lift a finger to help each other. What has happened along the way?
I'm partially mad at my self for allowing people to treat me like I have. For not speaking up. For not saying things like "you need to help" or "you need to do this' or just plain saying "HELP me". As a female, I have allowed men in my life to be lazy, chauvinistic individuals. Gender should have absolutely nothing to do with if you help someone or not. There is no such thing as "women's work". We don't live in the 1950s. I work outside the home and when I step foot inside my home I switch jobs. I don't sit around watching tv eating bonbons and I don't do things when or if I want to. I do it because it needs to be done or because if I don't do it it won't get done and because it should be done. This is how I've allowed people around me to act and behave...and I'm mad at myself. From work and the adults around me to the kids, I deal with every day...they all have blinders on to helping one another. What had happened to society?
I can tell you that kids now have no idea how to give of their time and talents nor how to volunteer because the adults have likewise have become a bunch of self-centered individuals who somewhere along the way have forgotten how to help one another and how to be kind...it's time for this to change. And for me, well I'm going to start calling people out. I'll probably be referred to as the crazy old lady in the nursing home who is telling everyone what to do, but otherwise, no one will be doing anything. Sad but true.
Open your eyes, put down your phone, and your self-centered attitude and open a door, help carry something for someone, volunteer, do what is right, do your part....be kind.
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