It has been a while since I've blogged and I have a good excuse, one word....wedding. That's my excuse and I'm stickin' to it! It's not that I haven't felt the need to write or had material, just lack of time!
On this, the day after the first wedding of our year, I've had a million things running through my head. Happy thoughts and memories, the fun, the laughter, the smiles and the tears! And the best way to sum it all up is also with one word, "wonderful"!
But each year whenever graduation time, wedding season or whatever is going on is an "invitation" issue. Who is invited. Who is not. Who TO invite and who NOT to invite. It's a win-loose battle!
Yes there are those people who invite everyone they know or feel like they have to invite (your ex-brother in-law's sisters boyfriend-unless you are really close!). Then there are those who invite the people who they value, who have touched or brought meaning to their life, the ones who they are close to and have made a positive impact on. Or because you are related and to keep peace in the family. I have to admit I am not offended when I am not invited to something. It used to bother me, but honestly some people are such putz's that I am kind of relieved not to be included in their "event". Yes I have sent cards and gifts to people who I want to let them know I care, but I wasn't invited to their event. It is not going to stop me from sending a gift if I want to! Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled to be invited to an event, when it is someone who means a lot to me. BUT....inviting people to an event just to invite them is just dumb.
My theory is if you have not had a positive affect or impact on my life or if I have not heard from you in the past year or more then I'm not including you in my "party". If you have burned me, or been a jerk-your not worth my time or effort. If you are only are my friend when we see each other or you want attention or it works for you-your not invited. Yes I get the friends you many not talk to for weeks, months or years and when you see each other you pick up right where you left off the last time you saw one another-I have a couple of friends like that. But my theory is if you have not returned any effort to stay in touch, except when you happen to run into me then your not invite worthy. And there are also other factors....venue size, cost, or maybe it is just a small gathering. Maybe it's not my call on the guest list. But some people don't think about anyone but themselves. And everyone and their dog does not need to be invited!
I've been in those situations where I've been with other people who were invited or part of something that I was not. And when they talk about it socially when I'm around I either listen or ask questions to be a part of the conversation. I get it, I wasn't invited for whatever reason. Life goes on, my world did not stop revolving!
My whole purpose for this blog is to address the self-centered people who get offended and they say things or post snarky, crappy, immature things on social media. Here are my points on the whole situation: 1. Nice that you say those kinds of things on social media...way to hide behind a keyboard and a screen. 2. It shows your true character. Yep, people comment about it and wonder what the hell is wrong with you.They are judging YOU not the fact that you were not invited to a social gathering 3. Way to be a dark cloud on someone else's special time and occasion-very mature-no you're not. 4. I'm sorry that life is not centered around or all about you. But it is not my problem. 5. This is a reminder of maybe WHY you were not invited...I'm just making a point.
With this first wedding there were people I would not have invited, (mainly family!). But not my final call. Life goes on and no harm was done. This was NOT my party or place to have a final say. But to the individual who had to post something snarky on social media it truly showed your true colors.
There will always be "those" people, I get that. But I was always told "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all". If the world would follow this guideline a little more it would be a lot better place or maybe the people who think they should be included need to follow this a lot more.
Okay that is off my mind! I can't wait for weddings #2 and #3. Bring them on! I'm ready!
